The Edge, the Cross, and a Pilgrim

So now, Barry’s Bay, I am saying goodbye. In the last few weeks and days, I have been reminded both of our pilgrim status, the cross, and the “edge”.

When I first arrived, shocked and exhausted- and reluctant- I remember Fr. Terry, the biker-turned-Byzantine priest, telling me in his bear-like way, “Welcome to the edge”. It frightened me and thrilled me at the same time. The edge turned out to be a place from where I could see past the comforts and joys and temptations of this life. I have a memory in my mind of Fr. Terry pointing out the hill beyond our little dilapidated house, a lone, treed hill overlooking the rat-a-tat of pale little houses surrounded by yards beaten to death by weather, ski-doos, four-wheelers and toys. He pointed to that hill and told me it would be beautiful in the winter; and then he encouraged me that I would see beyond that, even, if I trusted God.

The edge turned out to be a place of well-placed little crosses for me to carry: financial panics, the grind of buying everything and only things on sale and otherwise cheap; battling anonymous arms for things at St. Joe’s thrift shop; a culture and community which seemed inscrutable to me for months; Canadian bureaucracy; losing a couple teeth; burned arms, root canals, sledding accidents and April still buried in the cold; and the ever-flapping housewrap-“Polish siding”. And finally, a very large cross: losing two precious students. This was a cross we all shared, and it seemed to break down barriers and open hearts all round.

Up until the point of the loss of Janine and Paul, the crosses were there to strip me of attachment to the comforts and beauties of this world. I’d imbued so much pressure to be and appear as the world would like without even knowing the extent of my attachments. Our Lady’s Valley, the area surrounding Barry’s Bay and Combermere, was a place where a mother’s hands gently but firmly stripped my soul. The cross of losing Janine and Paul was rather a cross for all of us in this community to carry together-it was too heavy to carry alone-but for me, it was a sort of completion of one part of my journey of attachment to this world, like a lodge halfway up a two-day hike: for both young people seemed to me to exemplify the idea of the Christian pilgrim, which necessarily carries within it the element of detachment. In their flight away from this world, culminated in their deaths, they hammered home the point to me that our home is not here.

With their deaths on the lake, another temptation to attachment was taken from me. When I first came here, all I wanted to do was to settle on Mask Island. It seemed like another world to me, and how I love the water! After the accident, that was taken from me as well. Nothing here seemed beautiful to me anymore, especially shrouded in the death of winter. It was sometime round then that my sight began to change, and I understood what Fr. Terry had been telling me when I first arrived. Sometimes it is those seemingly innocuous temptations that hold our sight on the wrong things.

At first, it was St. Hedwig’s which seemed more and more beautiful; it was as if a light emanated from the place- the darker things got around me elsewhere, the lighter the church became. Then it was the faces of my students, my fellow teachers, the kindness of the lady at Afelskie’s and the flower lady at Value Mart, and my neighbor down the road on his funky new bike. They began to be luminous, just like my memories of my short time with Janine. I began to converse with Janine regularly, asking her for help in how I should see things- and truly she had already helped set the seeds for me for a better sight; for before she died, she had asked me, me already too burdened with tasks and roles and life in Barry’s Bay, if she could help with the Little Flowers group (which I had resisted starting). She broke that barrier, and I began to serve a little more, rather than looking at my own problems. My sight changed as the direction of my looking changed.

I know more now about the disorder of this place, as there are disorders in every place. But with my sight changed, I saw the miracle of God living side-by-side, almost with the filth on Him, as He works to change hearts and break down the barriers of disordered poverty, pride, selfishness and fear. I know, from my life in many different places (six or seven countries now), that this disorder is everywhere; but here it seems more naked in a way: in California, for instance, it seems to be nicely covered with a veneer of good weather, health and wealth (except if you visit the produce-picker’s shacks in Salinas). In general, here there is less to cover it with, unless someone becomes the ultimate block-head and tries to cover it with the veneer of holier-than-thou poverty or Jansenistic spirituality.

After a year, after the Canadian winter and a winter of the soul, I am a pilgrim a little more, in a hurry on the road to God, less interested in delaying for the temptations along the way (as Divine Intimacy puts it). I am definitely less attached to my teeth and more concerned with the words of love which I can get past them and my attempts at the abeyance of selfish ones. I rejoice in the beauty of God’s house and the souls who crawl in on spiritual knees: I saw with real eyes the widow with the mite, and the little children who came close to Christ. I do not weep over the house I live in, but rather the loss of knowing, day-to-day, the beautiful souls I knew here.

However, I believe that all born-or re-born- in love does not die, nor fade. Both my look into the hearts of a few young students, who were making the miraculous effort(borne by grace) to turn to God, and my deepening knowledge of those farther along the way to holiness was a catalyst for greater love- and now, greater loss in a sense. But to lose sight of our brothers and sisters in this life means naught in the economy of the spirit. In fact, I think we can love purely if we simply keep praying for each other. This is the meaning of our life here: that is, to be pilgrims in love with God and those He loves; and the Cross in some way makes us pilgrims- for while we carry our crosses, we can’t carry anything else.

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