A pure heart is one who seeks God totally and fully; one who loves deeply and feels the pull of many things, yet still seeks, as in St. Louis de Montfort’s term, “God Alone”.
How many of us have seen or lived with a pure heart or have one ourselves? How can we ever really judge the purity of our own or another’s heart? Yes, impossible. God alone judges this; but we see and know glimpses of this purity in our lives, whether it is through the intimate experience of another or in our own moments of truly loving God. Through a very special experience of one of my students, I have learned that purity is a state of being won through habitual and courageous practice of virtue; and a death to oneself in order to live for Christ.
I met Janine when she came to my class the first day: well, actually, I didn’t notice her because there were so many students, and many more compelling or colorful, with great laughs and well-thought-out comments: she was rather a quiet presence just to my left, her long and thin fingers still on the paper, or quickly writing a note here or there. I began first to notice her smile, a little like a child’s (with a wrinkling of the nose). Her smile was genuine, from the eyes, and she would laugh or smile and give a look of some amazement, her small, black eyes widening (I never figured out what the amazement was, unless she was simply amazed at the things I got myself into in the way of joking).
Then she came to my office one night, to talk about a paper. I could tell she was very focused, with a cultivated sixth-sense for discipline. I was a little uncomfortable because notwithstanding the discipline, she seemed so very fragile and unsure of herself, and I wondered if she would make it through the rigor of the academics. She surprised me first with the quality of her work: her purpose was clear and her thoughts were succinct and genuine.
I asked her and another student to house-sit for us because I implicitly trusted her, and when we returned they surprised me with the tiniest, sweetest notes for my children, little encouraging statements for each of them; and further, she had ‘done a poustinia’ in our house: a time of fasting and prayer. I began to realize that she had a depth I’d not guessed at, and also that there was a goal in mind: not a mercenary goal, but a goal of love, and like St. Therese of Liseux, she did deeds of deep love in very small ways- so small that one might easily miss them altogether.
My next surprise came when she asked if my daughter would like to visit the elderly home with her and some other students. Every Sunday, the little group visiting the elderly grew, and Janine, I surmised, was not quite comfortable with either taking little children or speaking to older people who may or not be feeling well enough to be greeted. But she went anyway- and not in her soft-spoken, often unsure words, but rather in her actions, did I begin to ascertain a certain something which inspired me. What was it that lived in her, which belied the easily-ruffled waters on the surface of her being?
One night after class, we had a passionate discussion of the journey of the soul, as we studied it in the character of Odysseus, and how the Greeks were able to see certain truths even though they did not have Christ. To my shame, I can better remember my own words than hers; but I felt a sense of illumination and a joy in our meeting of the souls: for great literature can provide these meetings, when the souls are open to truth. Janine, my deep interlocutor during that short conversation, was passionate about the pure beauty of a human search for truth and discoveries of the heart.
A few nights later, I was trying to staple numerous pages together for a class, and I had all twenty-five or so page-piles laid out on the library tables- except for the front couple tables, where a dark coat and bag lay. Janine came in, and I apologized for the interruption of her studies. She tried to read for awhile with the noise of shuffling papers and my suppressed moans when the stapler began to malfunction. She noiselessly got up and asked if she could help me. I resisted for a second, and then something in her demeanor, something beyond sight or words made me understand that this was a gift to me and that I would do well to enjoy it. So we shuffled papers together and chatted peacefully. I always felt completely safe with Janine; she was a person with whom I was totally myself: ages, stations, backgrounds, none of these mattered: what mattered, it seemed to me, was the desire to love and be loved. I must admit that there are very, very few people with whom I feel completely myself.
The last time I saw Janine, she was a quiet observer within our small group chat after First Friday Mass and the louder ones of us were bantering about the cultural impact of the Rolling Stones and “Badger, Badger” You Tube videos. I didn’t even realize that Janine was there- it was dark and she was so quiet, and I am at times absorbed in my own wit- until the group broke up, and I saw her curled-lip smile. I smiled back in peace- and we waved goodbye. I was hoping that nothing we’d said had ruffled her delicacy, but I was glad to see her just hanging out; and I remember thinking that she was going past another boundary of what was perhaps not comfortable to her: bantering. As her face receded, still smiling, I turned away to make sure the kids were getting into the car. It was the last time I saw her.
The next day, Janine got a ride to spiritual direction, and there was a decision to go via the frozen lake. She and another student drowned when the van went through the ice.
In my grieving, the image of a delicate, pink rose keeps coming to my mind, wafting up from my soul, and from my memories of her. It is the kind of rose that waves a little in the breeze, at the end of a gentle and flexible stem, a rose of surpassing softness and transparency, a rose with a scent which requires all other scents to be purged before one can really experience it.
Janine, God’s pink rose, may have had imperfections I did not know about, but she gave me a powerful example of purity, and the very real struggle for it. She was focused on God, it seemed to me: all her actions, all her service and her joys seemed bent by an indomitable will towards Him. This clarity of purpose and desire required her to be courageous: she had to go past what was comfortable, and she wanted to because of Love. She had to say no to attachments and desires, fears and natural dislikes, in order to say “yes” to God. She did it, with some trembling sometimes, but she did it nonetheless. I learned from her that purity for God requires courage.
She was such a paradox of rose and iron: but this paradox melts away when seen in the light of pursuing Love Himself- for “love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” You see, I think that this Love is so gentle, but to do all these things, to be truly gentle in the winds of this world requires a purity of heart, a heart for God alone; and this, in turn, requires a strong will to say, over and over, “I want to do what You want. I want to believe in You. I want to hear only Your voice.” In those choices of the will, there must be God-given courage; and what results is Christ in the world again: even if He is taken again in some way, as He was, I think, when Janine died in the days just before Lent.
I will LIVE, I will LOVE, I will ask for courage to have a pure heart- and I will hope to continue to know Janine through the bridge of prayer.
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